Positivity
My husband’s not going to change. He’s always enjoyed having friends around, so it is what it is. He will never think of coming home early and instead hang around with his friends. He’s always been that way.
Our thinking influences our behavior. Why don’t you stop believing that the negative past experiences equal the now and future? If you do, then it doesn’t!
Focus on the good things in people. Not their faults. This will make things much better and improve all kinds of relationships.
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My job is so boring and I can’t stand the gossip in the office, but to find a job nowadays is so hard. I’m so tired that I have to drag myself to get up in the morning. I can’t even sleep or eat well. I’m just too stressed and tired to even change these feelings!
Changing the many negative and neutral thoughts in our day-to-day life to positive ones can take a bit of energy. But don’t you think that being positive about your environment can bring back the lost energy 2,000 percent?
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I’m really not pretty. My face is so round and my front teeth are just too big. I want to follow the latest hairstyle and buy that trendy skirt, but what would people say? They will laugh, mock me and question this change in outlook on life.
But did you also think that they may actually like it? Maybe it will bring confidence to you and make your life more comfortable. If you think of the positive changes, wouldn’t you feel less scary?
Put the Law of Attraction to better use. Whatever you think about you attract them into your life. As you replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts you will start to attract more positive opportunities and people into your life.
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Turn a barb into love, a jeer into a cheer. You will create a better world around you as your surroundings will be affected and change due to your positive thoughts and actions. I’m talking about positivity—the state or character of being positive.
I believe that we can effectively improve our life by thinking in a more positive way. It’s nothing new but also not simple. That’s why not many are doing it.
But consider what Henrik Edberg in his website Positivityblog.com said on why we should become more positive. We become more attractive and will make better first impressions. People like positive people. They make other people feel good about them and they don´t drag the mood down.
When we’re positive, we also waste less time. Henrik said, “Negativity can be like a self-feeding loop. First, you think one negative thought. It leads you to three more. And then you start examining your life in deeper detail through a depressing lens. When you get into a vicious cycles like this it can eat up hours, weeks and years of your life. It can drain a lot of your energy whilst trapping you in paralysis by analysis. And you probably won´t become that much wiser in the process. As mentioned in the “Where Is Your Time Going?” we live for about 24-28,000 days. Don’t waste them.”
Try to do this: for seven days, try to only think positive thoughts. Whatever happens to you, you should see the good side of it and what positive things you could learn and get from it. He doesn’t ask you to pretend everything is okay while the house is actually on fire, for example. Instead it’s you noticing a situation then choosing a positive and useful response to it instead of reacting negatively right away.
Even in a trying situation, act as if you’re happy. Again, it’s not pretension but making effort to smile to feel happier. Move slower to relax. Use positive language. It might feel weird at first, but it really works.
Next, don’t let your thought settle on a negative thread more than 30 seconds or a minute. Don’t entertain these for long. Cut it off fast, drop it and think about what positive things you can get out of this situation.
One time, someone was spreading bad things about me and no matter how I try to brush off the negative thought to strike back, the negative emotions had started to overwhelm me. I fought it back but it tired me. I felt unreal. So I just surrendered and let in my feelings that moment without judging myself, the other person or the situation. Then something wonderful happened. The feeling just vanished and there was space now in my mind to let the positive thought settle in. That was enough to clear my head and later talk clearly to the person.
My best model is Jesus. Whenever my mouth starts to spurt negative things, my thought captures negative judgement and my heart feels the negative vibes, I seek out the words in Isaiah 53:7: “He was abused and punished, but he didn’t open his mouth. He was led like a lamb to the slaughter. He was like a sheep that is silent when its wool is cut off. He didn’t open his mouth.” That was Jesus during the days of His Passion. If our Lord was able to be model positivity even amidst torture, pain and insults, why can’t I?
Being positive is a more enjoyable way of thinking and makes miracles possible, too. Someone wrote that every man is a mirror and we see only ourselves reflected in those around us. So instead of thinking negative about people, let’s correct ourselves and then see how that can change our world and make a difference in our lives.
