Nepali woman’s quest to learn takes her back to school with son

Parwati Sunar, 27, sings the national anthem of Nepal while attending an assembly at Jeevan Jyoti secondary school in Punarbas, Kanchanpur district, southwest Nepal, August 7, 2022. REUTERS

KATHMANDU — A Nepali mother of two, Parwati Sunar finds herself attending the same school as her son after returning to an education system she fled at the age of 15, when she eloped with a man seven years her senior.

“I enjoy learning and am proud to attend with classmates who are like my own children,” Sunar told Reuters from her village of Punarbas on the southwestern edge of the Himalayan nation, where she studies in seventh grade.

Just about 57% of women are literate in the country of 29 million, and the 27-year-old Sunar said she hoped to become “literate enough” to be able to keep household accounts.

“I think I should not have left my school,” she said, explaining the desire to catch up on the lessons she missed, having had her first child at 16.

“I feel good to go to school with mum,” said her son, Resham, 11, who is a grade behind his mother, spends lunch breaks with her and rides pillion as she bicycles to computer classes they attend at an institute nearby.

“We chat as we walk to school and we learn from our conversation,” he said, adding that his mother hoped he could become a doctor.

Resham Sunar, 11, attends a class in the playground as the fan in the classroom was broken, at Jeevan Jyoti secondary school in Punarbas, Kanchanpur district, southwest Nepal August 9, 2022. REUTERS

As a student, Sunar was below average, but a keen learner, said Bharat Basnet, the principal of the village school, Jeevan Jyoti.

Her day begins at dawn in a tin-roofed two-room structure of bare bricks shared with sons Resham and Arjun and her mother-in-law, with their goats penned into one area. Their home lacks a toilet, so the family use a nearby plot of public land instead.

Their daily routine involves bathing in water drawn from a handpump outside their home, working in the verdant fields around it, and even making cakes for birthdays that a smiling Resham celebrates with a hibiscus flower tucked above one ear.

Sunar’s husband works as a labourer in the southern Indian city of Chennai in order to support his family.

They belong to the Dalit community, formerly known as untouchables, on the lowest rungs of the Hindu caste system, but Sunar said the family faced no ill-treatment over this.

“No one discriminates against me or my family,” she said.

After a simple meal of rice and lentils, Sunar puts on the school uniform of light blue blouse and skirt with a striped tie before taking the 20-minute walk with her son to the school, also a tin-roofed structure, surrounded by trees.

It was fun to be in the same class with Sunar, said Bijay B.K., one of her classmates, aged 14.

Parwati Sunar, 27, and her son Resham Sunar, 11, walk to school from their house in Punarbas, Kanchanpur district, southwest Nepal, August 5, 2022. REUTERS

“Didi is pleasant,” he said, using the Nepali term for an elder sister. “I help her in studies and she helps me too.”

Sunar’s efforts could inspire village women thirsty to learn beyond their domestic horizons in Nepal, where they still face discrimination and child marriage is widespread, even though illegal.

“She is doing a good job,” said one of her neighbours, Shruti Sunar, who is in the school’s 10th grade, though not a relative. “I think others should follow her and go to school.”

Enrolment of girls in basic education, or grades 1 to 8, is 94.4%, official data shows, but Krishna Thapa, president of the Federation of Community Schools, said nearly half dropped out for reasons ranging from lack of text-books to poverty.

“Schools lack infrastructure, such as toilets for girls,” Thapa added. “Most girls drop out during their period because there are no toilets.”

But Sunar, who gave up a job as a housemaid in neighbouring India to return to her studies, said she was determined to finish the 12th grade.

“This is the thinking now,” she added. “What lies ahead, I don’t know.”

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