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80% of Filipinos believe love is destiny



HAPPY VALENTINE’S Love is spending intimate moments with your inamorata at a quiet spot by the pond of the Ninoy Aquino Parks and Wildlife in Quezon City. EDWIN BELLOSILLO

Finding love is a matter of destiny that “cannot be planned or pursued” is a belief shared by almost four in every five Filipinos (78 percent), a Social Weather Stations (SWS) survey has found.

But more than one in five Filipinos 18 and above, or 22 percent, held that finding love entailed an active effort and may not be left to chance.

Results of the SWS survey also showed that those who claimed to have a “very happy” love life declined from an all-time high of 59 percent in December 2011 to 54 percent in December 2012.

Moreover, those who had yet to find a romantic partner rose from 9 percent in 2011 to a record 13 percent in 2012.

The survey, conducted between Dec. 8 and 11, 2012, asked 1,200 adults nationwide whether they believed that “love cannot be planned and pursued, it just comes to a person” or “love is planned and pursued until a person finds it.”

By gender, more women (84 percent) than men (72 percent) believed that love would come to a person by chance.

More men (28 percent) than women (16 percent) said love was planned and pursued.

Respondents were also made to assess their love life—whether they were “very happy,” “could be happier” or have “no love life.”

Those who said they could be happier barely moved from 31 percent in 2011 to 33 percent in 2012.

By gender, more men (58 percent) than women (49 percent) assessed their love life to be “very happy.”

On the other hand, more women (36 percent) said their romantic life “could be happier” compared with men (30 percent).

The percentages of those who “do not have a love life” were similar for men (12 percent) and women (14 percent).

Among men, those who were “very happy” with their love life were mostly in the 45 to 54 age group (63 percent), while those who “could be happier” were mostly in the 25 to 44 bracket (33 percent to 34 percent).

Among women, those who have a “very happy” love life belonged mostly to the 25 to 34 age range (56 percent), while those who “could be happier” were mostly in the 18 to 24 bracket (46 percent).

The SWS noted that loveless men were highest in the 18 to 24 age group (31 percent), while women with no love life were highest among those aged 55 and above.

By civil status, 63 percent of married adults and 54 percent of those with a live-in partner said they were very happy with their love life, compared with only 31 percent of those who were single.

The noncommissioned survey had a margin of error of plus-or-minus three percentage points.—Lawrence de Guzman, Inquirer Research


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  • boybakal

    80% of Filipinos believe love is destiny….

    I beg to disagree…Love is not destiny, it is more of Sex….look we are now 100 million filipinos.

    • Pedro

      I agree. and people still believe we are a ‘conservative country’ LOL 100 million Filipinos, kadyot ng kadyot conservative ba yan? LOL

      • Marx Louis Wang

        Oo, nga. Iyot nang iyot.

    • Marx Louis Wang

       Tama! Habol ng karamihan ay kantutan (tagalog sa sex).

  • EdgarEdgar

    If 80% of Filipinos believe love is destiny, how many Filipinos think that success is also destiny?

    A sign of our times? A sign of a society’s helplessness?

    • Pedro

      Wala ka sigurong syota Edgar kaya hopeless ka. HAHAHA 

      • EdgarEdgar

        HAHAHA…. keep guessing.

    • buttones

      ‘Success’ in what way? Success is very subjective, some might say my President is more ’successful’ than I- which is clearly not the case- I’m in a wonderful relationship, I answer to few, I am not at the beck and call of media, I live a sublime life on a tropical beach, I am not forced to give my relations and friends jobs which they ill deserve, I don’t even have to spend my birthdays with my sisters either… Now who’s ahead in this game you call ‘success’? On the topic, I think we might find that 80% of the world believes in this destiny of love, it irrational of course, it’s quite silly when you look at it, stupid love. The odds of finding our perfect partner are ridiculous, but many keep trying, always did, always will…..

      • Dawn Dare

        Some of us are hopeless romantics, some are geniuses. Some of us are left-brainers, some are right-brainers, but a majority just don’t use their brains.

      • ARIKUTIK

        Success is when one finds satisfaction on what it got. Even if it owns only a cute deep scratching kitten with paws that could pirch the soul of feeling alive. The though of being alive is more than enough to be satisfied. Love is irrational so as life that is meant only for death. Happy Valentines !  

      • EdgarEdgar

        In that regard, I’d say 99.9% of Filipinos are more successful than the President.

  • WAJ

    Love interlink sexual intimacy between a man and a woman on the other hand getting married is a destiny. This is when both will face a tremendous responsibility.

  • simondj

    we love because He (God) first loved us. those who do not love does not know God because God is love. there is no fear in love because perfect love drives out fear. love never fails because love conquers all.

  • regd

    Correct! That’s why they have mistresses!

  • Dawn Dare

    What sort of surveys next? How many flush their toilets after use? We don’t need another useless survey.

    • buttones

      It’s just a bit of fun really, it doesn’t mean anything, it is not to be taken seriously- on toilets, well there was a survey a while back that 30% of this nation didn’t even have one— a 6.3% GDP growth -yes but a toilet no…

      • ARIKUTIK

        The equation of truth was finally revealed by toilets. Penoy economic growth did not build toilets for relieving grumbling stomachs….. yeheyyyyy….. Truth in toilets can not be denied.

  • Eddie AAA Calderon

    Very true. In my case, love came knocking at the door of my heart in the autumn of life which was also in the Philippine Inquirer edition in October, 2002. My situation is very different as I married a very beautiful and very young woman from Kyrgyzstan, a former republic of the Soviet Union located in Central Asia. I am the first Filipino to have ever set foot in that country and to ever marry a Kyrgyzstani lass. She is now in Minnesota with since 2002 and we have two very handsome sons. I wrote an article regarding this in somosprimoscom in June 2012 with pictures. The article is under the heading Philippines.

  • Marx Louis Wang

    Tanungin niyo is bogli_anakdami.

  • kilabot

    analysex is love. hiv/aids is worth it. – lgbt.

    • Diepor

      What is analysex, it’s obvious you practice this thing so tell us?

  • Tess Dizon

    Una sa lahat happy valentine’s day! Pangalawa, kadiri yung picture sa taas, nakaupo sila  malapit sa mga water lily,ang daming dumi at may pusa pa! hindi romantic yung place anu ba!

  • Crazy_horse101010

    why is the philippines one of the wold leaders of adultry. it could be true of teenage girls since the philippines is one of the world leaders in teen age pregancies.

    • buttones

      Firstly there are no records available of adultery in PH , that might be just a ’feeling’ On teenage pregnancies we are not even in the top ten, and don’t forget girls marry very early in PH 17, 18 19, they’re teenagers. Why are children having children? I’ve no idea, why do babies suddenly appear three months after the wedding?- I’ve no idea…I think it might be connected to a lack of responsibility, a lack of morals, a lack of education, a breakdown of the generally accepted mores of most societies? I swear to God I’m going to read about men marrying men and having babies soon … ooops!

      • Diepor

        Because of our church and very little talk about sex in the schools.

      • buttones

        There is a link here, and it must be noted that most schools are Catholic anyway, and government schools invite priests to hold Catholics masses on government property as well. Ths day before that the poor kid has to get 5 peso from his parents to take to school so the priest can be fed. That’s how it works- I’m not too sure what non- Catholic kids do during these wasted hours, play in the playground I guess… learn about sex? Maybe.. I’m always amazed at how much the Church knows about relationships., marriage, sex etc when non of them have had any first hand experience [sort of]. It’s like me inviting an electrician to my cottage and asking him to put in a new switch and he gets his book out with a title that says “Putting in New Switches- an Idiots Guide” Exit, one ‘electrician….Actually there is a LOT of talk about sex in school, nothing to do with the teacher of course, and there is a lot of homework done as well ….

    • E Rigby

       Sorry but this is not exactly true.  There’s a lot of adultery going on in many countries around the world.  It’s quite a stretch to say that PH is one of the world’s leaders.  That’s going to be quite hard to prove. 

    • Diepor

      Because of the church and poverty.

  • ConstructiveMediaCritics

    LOVE IS IN YOUR FREE WILL…..NO BODY DICTATE AND DESTINED IT FOR YOU….IT IS YOU WHO WILL DECIDE, YOU WILL CHOOSE A PERSON OR LOVE A PERSON OR NOT…ALTHOUGH LOVE IN GENERAL AS GODS GREAT COMMANDMENTS IT IS YOUR FREE WILL, WILL DECIDE…

    “SABI NGA RAW ANG PAG=IBIG AY NARARAMDAMAN MO NA LANG SA ISANG TAO YES IT IS TRUE PERO NASA SA IYO DIN KUNG YUNG NAIBIGAN MO AY PAPAIBIGAN MO MEANING SOME MAY NOT HAVE LOVE FOR BUT THEY CAN INLOVE WITH YOU BY MAKING GOOD FOR HER BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM AT YUNG NAIBIGAN MO AY MAGDEDECIDE DIN KUNG GUSTO KA RIN NYA I DONT THINK YOU ARE BOTH DESTINED FOR LOVE IT IS YOUR FREE WILL”………….

    BUT I BELIEVE GOD GIVING YOU A CHANCE FOR THE ONE YOU LOVE AND IT IS YOU WHO WILL USE YOUR FREE WILL TO HAVE LOVE WITH OTHERS…….

    HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!!!

    • ARIKUTIK

      Love is not free will. All girls can be coned to feel in love by sweet sincere words. Guys who can pretend to be decievingly sincere can make girls eyes twinkling with stars. And the guys who can squeess out the juice can make ladies blindly in love. It is the expert man who dictates love. It’s not free will at all ….. nya ….hahaha…..

      • http://profile.yahoo.com/MJFXCRSCXRWPLL42QQKSINC3AQ Mamerto

        Involving deceit and evil manipulation could still include “free will” of the “victim”.

        This is what happened to Adam & Eve, in the Garden of Eden.

  • gyvv

    … love is work…

  • NoWorryBHappy

    BEAUTIFUL.
    That’s what I see in the picture.
    That gray cat at the back of the bench bathing itself is the most natural thing in the world.

    • ARIKUTIK

      The gray cat maybe at peace but the guy’s fingers is salivating in roaming to the bones. The poor love struck girl is ticklishly taken for a ride ….. ahhhahaha…..

      • E Rigby

         I hope the guy has a frequent guest card so that they can take their “loving at the park” to the next level. 

      • ARIKUTIK

        It’s more exciting in instant natural environment as long there are no other eyes around or police man to extract fines. love under the moonlight in green green grass of fresh blowing air of suspense is the more delicious to the bones. Try it onetime, for memories that last for a lifetime …. yeheyyyyy …..

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/ELGS2BPKJKG5PDWJAOOCF7K5KI Albert

    Obviously filipinas think love is destiny, why else would a woman have 10 kids from 7 different guys??



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