Elder abuse

ELDER abuse or abuse of the elderly is a pandemic. It is much more common that we think. This

savagery is shameful, disgusting, and against every rule on love, respect, and human decency. It is most unfortunate that while the human race has come a long way from our cavemen years, the caveman mentality and brutality among a few of us still

remain. Perhaps I should not even demean our cavemen relatives. Perhaps elder abuse did not even

exist in their culture during that time.

Parents would do anything, work hard, sacrifice, and even give up their life, to care for, provide for, protect, and save their children from any danger or calamity. While there are unfortunate exceptions, they are not the rule. Irresponsible and negligent parents are a lot less in proportion compared to children who abuse their parents, especially in their ripe old age, helpless, and dependent on their children, a stage of vulnerability in the winter of their life. Not only don’t they get the care and support they need, they are even abused and neglected. Some even tortured.

The National Center on Elder Abuse, Bureau of Justice statistics, dated September 9, 2012, reported 9.5 percent of the elder population in the United States were abused in 2010, a staggering number of almost six million, 5,961,568! Sixty seven and a third percent were females and the median age of the victims was 77.9. There were 66.4 percent white victims compared to 18.7 percent black and 10.4 percent Hispanic. While there was no statistics that included Asians, I would venture to guess that figure would probably be around 1 percent or lower.

The variety of abuse includes: Neglect, 58.5

percent; physical abuse, 15.7 percent; financial

exploitation, 12.3; emotional, 7.3; sexual, 0.04; all other types, 5.1 percent.

Sixty-six percent of the abuses are perpetrated by adult children or spouse; 42 percent of murder

victims over 60 were killed by their own children, and 24 percent killed by their spouse.

As far as abuse in the nursing home, 91 percent of nursing homes in the USA are understaffed and therefore not able to provide adequate care. Thirty-six percent are in violation of elder abuse laws.

“Elder abuse, according to World Health organization, is a violation of human rights and a significant cause of illness, injury, loss of productivity, isolation and despair.”

What is elder abuse?

As the term implies, abuse (according to the Illinois Domestic Violence Act of 1986) means any act or behavior that causes any physical, mental, emotional, or sexual injury to an elderly person … such as physical, verbal or psychological abuse, harassment, intimidation of a dependent, humiliation, harassment, interference with personal liberty, confinement or isolation, financial exploitation, or willful deprivation of shelter, hygiene, nutrition, medication, medical care and treatment. Doing anything that the elder person does not agree or consent to or, or anything that hurts the elder, even those with Alzheimer’s or are unconscious, is elder abuse. Even passive neglect by children of the victim, or the caregiver, is elder abuse, and is a crime and punishable by law, just like those active abuse listed above.

What are the common types of financial

exploitation?

This crime against the elderly includes misuse an elder’s personal checks, credit cards, or accounts; stealing cash, income checks, or household goods, forging the elder’s signature, and engaging in identity theft. One of commonest fraud strategy against the elderly is an announcement of a “prize” that the elderly person has won but must pay money to claim the prize, or asking donation for phony

charities, and investment fraud with an “irresistible”

dividend/profit.

What are the signs of elder abuse?

The elderly could be malnourished, unhealthy-looking, with a sad demeanor, depressed, withdrawn, obviously unhappy, some with scars or bruises or even actual bone dislocation and/or fractures from physical abuse, signs of restraints around the wrists and or the ankles, broken eyeglass frames, anal or vaginal bruises and/or bleeding, missing or dwindling personal funds and savings, changes in the personality, sudden change in their wills, power of attorney, titles, and policies, etc.

Why the abuse?

This is a complex and puzzling problem. As I wrote in my health book, Let’s Stop “Killing” Our Children, when a child is conceived and born, there is an unwritten covenant between the child and the parents, which proclaims that the parents would do their utmost to love, care for, nurture, protect, guide, educate, the child, until he/she develops “the wings to fly and soar,” and is independent and able to live on his/her own. The child, on the other hand, has the obligation, a moral duty, to love, respect, serve, protect, his/her parents, especially when they are old and helpless from the infirmities and ravages of old age, the very stage when they need their children’s love and support the greatest. There could not be a more wonderful and more scared covenant.

So, the only explanation in majority of cases of

elder abusers is the character and integrity of the perpetrators, the ungrateful children or spouse, etc, or caregiver, or even the public in general. In some countries, the cruelty may even come from the

government. While it might be true that some

perpetrators are children who were mad at their parents, who could have been poor providers or strict disciplinarians, or abusive parents, this is only a small number. But even these situations do not justify elder abuse. Mentally, the children or caregiver abusers are pathological sadists, sick in the head, to say the very least. How can one hurt his/her

parents?

What can be done?

If anyone suspects elder abuse, neglected or exploited, inform a family member of the elderly you trust, or your doctor or the police. But make sure you tell at least one person. Do not assume someone else will do it. The helpless victims cannot protect themselves and fear retaliation. If you actually see the abuse being committed, take a picture if you could, and report it to the authority. You could also go to the internet and learn how to report elder abuse.

Our parents and other elders

deserve our love, respect, compassion and support. That is a covenant within us and in our heart we must not breach nor minimize. Our own children are well-aware how we treat our parents, and would learn from that family tradition and behavior. As Asians and as Filipinos, respect for the elders, relatives or not, is one of the greatest assets we were bequeathed with by our culture and tradition, a facet of our life we can be truly proud of. Let us keep that covenant with our parents and our own children sacred and alive. That is what makes Family a wonderful legacy of the human race to humanity

itself.

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