EUREKA!

Being gay is not a disease

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My colleague and friend Regina Hechanova, the president of the Psychological Association of the Philippines (PAP), alerted me to an article on “Being Gay” that came out in another newspaper.

At first I was thankful that homosexuality was being discussed openly by a public personality I like and respect.

However, based on interviews with psychologist Camille Garcia, the article contained several misconceptions about homosexuality, untruths that had been debunked by science.

Homosexuality is not a disorder. It is not included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the most comprehensive arbiter of mental health, used by psychiatrists, psychologists and so on).

“Like other national organizations, such as the American Psychological Association, the British Psychological Society and the Hong Kong Psychological Society, among many others, the PAP recognizes that there is no inherent illness or pathology behind same-gender sexual orientations,” says the official statement.

Equal human beings

It continues: “The PAP enjoins Filipino psychologists to stand by their professional and ethical commitments to affirm the rights and well-being of all individuals… Anti-lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender prejudice and discrimination tend to be based on a rhetoric of moral condemnation and are fueled by ignorance or unfounded beliefs associating these gender expressions and sexual orientations with psychopathology or maladjustment.”

“Our best scientific knowledge has shown that sexual orientation is not a choice,” says developmental psychologist Liane Alampay. “Parents cannot control whom we are attracted to.

“What parents can control is whether and how they will show their unconditional regard and acceptance of their child,” Alampay continues.  “Whether the child is gay or straight, the ingredients of good parenting are the same. Parents who are warm and affectionate, sensitive to their children’s needs and respond to these appropriately have children who are well-adjusted and confident, have positive social relationships, are competent in school and are at low risk for behavioral and emotional problems. For gay children, who will undoubtedly experience confusion, isolation, even rejection from others at some point in their lives, the positive regard of their parents is all the more important and can even protect them.”

Alampay says it is natural for parents to feel disappointment, hurt or shock when a child is gay. She urges these parents to examine their own prejudices and, together with their child, learn how to deal with the reality of having a gay family member.

“As yet, we do not have clear answers as to why some people are gay or, for that matter, why some people are straight,” Alampay says. “But what matters is we do our best to treat each other, especially our children, with the dignity, respect and care we all deserve as equal human beings.”

Pro-person

“The most curious question I got was, ‘You are straight—why are you pro-gay?’” Hechanova says. “I’ve never thought of myself as pro-gay. What I am is pro-person. The world is difficult enough—we live with poverty in our midst, our environment is slowly being destroyed, we hear about corruption, violence and crime… almost daily. Why should we make it harder for people just because they have a different skin color, god or gender preference?

“True, psychology teaches us that prejudice and discrimination are human tendencies,” Hechanova continues. “We are affirmed by being with people like us. We shape our identity by differentiating ourselves from others. Research tells us that members of minorities are easy targets for discrimination simply because they are different from most.

“Then again, the beauty of being human is the capacity to change and evolve,” she concludes. “If the prejudice is coming from ignorance, we can inform. Bias-based stereotypes can be changed by contact. Fear can be diminished through interaction and dialogue. But perhaps the [most] difficult aspect of prejudice is one’s heart. The challenge is to make people really look beyond differences and see that we are the same where it counts—we are all human beings who simply want to love and be loved.”

For more information about homosexuality and other psychological issues, visit the PAP website www.pap.org.ph. The PAP also “encourages media practitioners who wish to get professional psychological advice to see the list of certified psychologists in the PAP website.”

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  • riza888

    Homosexuality is not normal. And no one is preventing 2 gays from loving each other. Just simply don’t agree that these relationships are normal, that they constitute real marriages or that they provide the best environment in which to raise children.

    • lonelyoutlier

      And straight, broken marriages constituting for example, drunkards and infidels and battered women are better suited to raise children than two happy people who happen to be the same gender?

      • OZBOYS

        And gay, broken marriages constituting for examples, drunkards, pedophilia, infidels and battered gays are better suited to raise children than two happy people who happened to be of different gender…

      • lonelyoutlier

        They can’t even marry. What the hell is your point? So many bad eggs come from bad marriages of straight people who aren’t even fit to raise children by their own virtue. It is acknowledged that well brought-up, financially stable, good valued homosexual people have the means to support and raise children way better than most people who are married out of propriety than love

    • jgl414567

      You are so ignorant of the issues of homosexuality and equal rights that you sound like from the dark ages when civilization was still barbaric!

      • adriel0104

        admitting to be sick really is hard.just assess yourself,common it’s not too late to be treated..

    • josh_alexei

      What is not normal to you is normal to others…yes no one is preventing adults to engage in consensus legal activities, but what about their Rights under the Constitutions for Equality, equal Protection and Equal Benefits under the Law? without discrimination? the SC of Canada bearing in mind that all individuals are Equals struck out laws that denied Gay Union benefits that were extended to the Union of Man and Woman at the exclusion of all others, that now, and from the filing of the class suit against Pension Canada for not paying Pensions to Survivors of Same Sex Uinion, has to retroactively pays the survivor pensions, Parental Leave of up to one year for same sex couples for having a child, (by birth for lesbians and adoption for Gay males) and that leave can be taken by either or divisible between partners..same as traditional couples…that during the break up of the Union (or Marriage) the Divorce law will also applies in regards to settlement of assets, custody of children and all other issues in regards to dissolution of marriage and or union…(that there is no escaping the responsibility as when Two are together as Couples or Partners for at Least a year, less if there is child in the union, the Union is considered as good as Marriage..even without the formality of the marriage contract in PAPER.) point to all of these…we LOVE our Children same as anyone…we even give them Tax Funded secondary Education 100%, universal health care fully tax funded…generous allowances for the children of single moms (matter not if they all have different dads, moms did not even know) and low income families…And next time you say what is normal or not, check where we are in every surveys, in »morality, corruption, crimes and scammers and spammers and corrupt politicians

  • Ommm

    Pretty sure a closet queen wrote this article……

    • lonelyoutlier

      Or a highly regarded professor from Ateneo.

  • shioktong

    Dapat magpa sex change ang isa para presentable.

  • XY ZEE

    It’s not a disease…it’s a curse.

  • koolkid_inthehouse

    Gay is an abnormality. A freak played by nature. Meaning not normal

    • lonelyoutlier

      And trolls just want attention.

    • Kenjie Hasaki

      Normality is defined by culture and not by nature. What may be normal to you may not be normal to me. If for instance, there are more gays than hetero on this planet, would we consider hetero abnormality? Most likely, yes, if we go by your definition.

      Surely, we do not call a genius abnormal just because he is different from the rest of us.

      We have intelligence that understands the workings of the planet, the mystery of dark matter and anti-matter, the complexity of quantum physics… This knowledge alone will tell us that in nature there is no abnormality. It is designed as it is to give balance.

      • jgl414567

        You are absolutely right! Koolkid_inthehouse has an abnormal opinion, his mind set is a throwback to the dark past of the middle ages when bigotry and racism was the norm!

      • Ronald Waab

        Referring to your 1st sentence, sexuality is not included. It is defined by nature. You are absolutely wrong. That is not the design of human existence.

      • Kenjie Hasaki

        How do you know it is not the design? How do you know what is included and what is not?

      • Ronald Waab

        simple common sense. don’t be a bigot.

      • regd

        So if we are outnumbered by paedophiles we can accept their lifestyle as normal? If you were raised and born on the Hiter-era, you will without any thought or moral conviction do what the germans do?

        It is not a question of balance, it’s a question of right and wrong. Now if right or wrong is subjective, then why are the society ruled by moral values survived and those that doesn’t died (and they stink)? In the heart of every human being is an inherent characteristic of what is morally right. Some are just confused which ones that aren’t. But eventually, sanity & civility rules. And that is how a society flourish.

    • jgl414567

      It is people like you who are intolerant of other people’s beliefs and orientation who is so abnormal.

      • adriel0104

        being gay/lesbians is not a belief or orientation.They are sick/abnormal people.It is a simple logic!

      • lonelyoutlier

        “A simple logic”

        What’s the logic behind it? Sick/abnormal on what basis? You don’t seem to like facts, do you?

      • regd

        The fact that a penis is not a vagina? Is that reason factual enough for you?

    • regd

      All I can say is, a sperm crossing another sperm does not produce a baby. It might produce a virus however.

  • josh_alexei

    well, the Premier of Ontario, the Premier Province of Canada is an Open Gay and the first ever Woman premier and there is no issue about her sexual orientation…she is the Top Man in the Province…and we long time ago, Declared to the World, that Every Individual is Equal Before and Under the Law, and has the Right to Equal Protection and Equal Benefit of the Law and without Discrimination and in Particular with regards to race, colour, age, sex, mental and physical disability, religion and Sexual Orientation…and the Philippines society has a Long way to Catch Up…start Now…

  • josh_alexei

    And on top of that, same Sex couple who decided to have Children,(les can have kids, can’t they?) or want to adopt one or two or three are also entitled to Parental Leave of one Year with Pay, (same as “traditional couples) under the Equal benefit of the Law, divisible between parents or be taken by one…Parental leave can be taken by Husband after the mandatory maternity leave of at least 7 weeks…that is up to one year with pay…it is not a matter of whether it is normal or preference as Freedom is yours to Choose (and many can be Both) but is a matter of your Rights and Freedoms…so settle down and about time to accept that Homosexuality been with us since Humanity and will not go Away..live and let live…

    • Cue_Vas

      “homosexuality been with us since humanity….”

      But so is foot fetish. So the solution is to give every outlier fetishist behavior equal, if not special rights? What stops us from legalizing pedophilia then?

      • josh_alexei

        their is no comparison…and you bloody knew it…Pedophilia you say? check it out, in many countries, it is legal for 12 years old to get married,while they execute homosexuals while in others, it is statutory rape to have sex with a 12 years old, while consenting adults of any sex or cross or even orgy is Legal…Quebec recently won a case in court acquitting a group for indecent sexual activities (orgy) paving the way to striking out laws of Privately held orgies in Quebec and Quebec is a Catholic province by a a Vast Majority…but you get 25 years there for the crime of sex with a child…which is pedophilia…

  • boybakal

    Being gay is not a disease….

    I agree, being gay is not a disease, it is freak of nature.

    • jgl414567

      You are the hideous creation of a very sick mind go see a psychiatrist before you harm people with your bigotry!

  • $14334231

    mga salawikain sa mga kursunada nila……tomboy – sa akin, hindi ka mabubuntis….bading – sa akin, hindi ka makakabuntis…..hehehe….

  • NAGMAMARUNONG

    ahhhhhh, pwede naman ang AC-DC.

  • penoy2012

    Being gay is not a disease, but it causes disease. AIDS is nature’s gift for the world who engages in same-sex unions.

    • lonelyoutlier

      AIDS is also transmitted by needle, by sex between heterosexuals, and by birth from mothers who contract it. AIDS is not exclusive to gay people. Gay people who are in loving mutually exclusive relationships do not contract AIDS. Broaden your world view.

      • penoy2012

        Transmitted by other means, – yes. But there would be no AIDS in the first place if not for the acts of gays.

      • lonelyoutlier

        What are you even saying? AIDS was originated in chimpanzees.

      • jgl414567

        Forgive the ignorance of penoy2012 he doesn’t research properly what he is writing here because maybe he has a moronic IQ!

      • adriel0104

        being gay/abnormal is contagious!

      • lonelyoutlier

        Proof?

      • penoy2012

        That’s right. Gays mated with chimps.

      • Kenjie Hasaki

        That is completely untrue. The epidemic, if you will, was first detected in Africa during the 1950’s to 60’s during the outbreak of polio. Due to lack of resources, the doctors used the same syringe used in one patient to another. During this process, a lesser deadly virus mutated into what is now known as HIV. So as the music goes: “It all begun in Africa”

      • penoy2012

        It all began when you insert yours to something to where all the yuck goes out.

    • jgl414567

      Magresearch ka nga muna kasi nagmumukha kang tanga sa mga bulok mong opinyon! Unprotected sex is the primary cause of HIV/AIDS transmission for God’s sake. Nagaral ka ba o nagbabasa man lang, nakakahiya ang pagkaignorante mo!

      • penoy2012

        Uy! Defensive. Natatkot ka na magka-AIDS ano? Iwasan mo na kasing pumatol sa kapwa mo shokla.

  • noypi_ako

    Abnormal at immoral.

    Is not a disease but can cause a disease.

    • jgl414567

      It is people like you who are intolerant of other people’s beliefs and orientation who is so abnormal.

    • lonelyoutlier

      Immoral on what standard? Abnormal on what standard? Justify before talking nonsense.

  • Mother Goose

    All this rhetoric for ‘equality’ by the pro-gay lobby and their sympathizers only adds to the confusion. Gays are not normal — let’s call a spade a spade. Having feelings for the same sex and the lifestyle that it spawns is disconcerting, to say the least. I accept that there are gay people and they have rights, but their full acceptance by society would only come after they make a sincere, honest, and–most important–humble acceptance of their abnormality. Insisting that nothing’s wrong only fuels controversy even distaste.

    • lonelyoutlier

      What makes them abnormal then?

      • Mother Goose

        Common sense. I don’t wish to patronize you with an explanation.

      • jgl414567

        If given the chance you would have been Hitlerlike!

      • lonelyoutlier

        No, really, explain. You don’t even know what you’re talking about. It isn’t classified as a disorder, it is prevalent in the rest of the animal kingdom… So tell me, what makes you think that? Your god? Your parents? Are you closeted?

      • Ronald Waab

        Procreation involves a man and a woman only. Don’t be a bigot.

      • jgl414567

        An ignorant’s point of view!

      • regd

        Prevalent in the animal kingdom because they are as confused as you are. Let me ask you this, does an animal sperm and another sperm produce a baby?

    • jgl414567

      Bigots like you are the ones who are so abnormal! Seek professional help from a psychiatrist because your mind is so sick!

      • Ronald Waab

        you are the bigot, be open minded

  • Guest

    It is the way of nature on trying to limit population growth…

  • OZBOYS

    gay is not a disease it is a plague…

    • jgl414567

      Bigots like you have no place in a civilized world!

      • Ronald Waab

        you are the bigot

    • lonelyoutlier

      Homosexuality is not even classified as a psychiatric disorder. You have no idea what you’re talking about, so you classify because you’re ignorant and afraid.

  • Kenjie Hasaki

    Normality is defined by culture and not by nature. What may be normal to you may not be normal to me. If for instance, there are more gays than hetero on this planet, would we consider hetero abnormality? Most likely, yes, if we go by the definition of those who do not respect minorities.

    Surely, we do not call a genius abnormal just because he is different from the rest of us.

    We have intelligence that understands the workings of the planet, the mystery of dark matter and anti-matter, the complexity of quantum physics… This knowledge alone will tell us that in nature there is no abnormality. It is designed as it is to give balance.

    • Cue_Vas

      The movable boundaries of abnormality, or in your presentation, “nothing is abnormal in nature.” What do we call a calf with six legs? Or a voyeur? A pedophile?

      • Kenjie Hasaki

        Calf with six legs… what do you call it?

      • Kenjie Hasaki

        And the voyeur and pedophiles, they are not abnormal people. They are people without respect towards their fellow humans… like more of yourself…

  • Mother Goose

    All this rhetoric for ‘equality’ by the pro-gay lobby and their sympathizers only adds to the confusion. Gays are not normal — let’s call a spade a spade. Having feelings for the same sex and the lifestyle that it spawns is disconcerting, to say the least. I accept that there are gay people and they have rights, but their full acceptance by society would only come after they make a sincere, honest, and–most important–HUMBLE acceptance of their abnormality. Insisting that nothing’s wrong only fuels controversy even distaste.

    • jgl414567

      Bigots like you are the ones who are so abnormal! Seek professional help from a psychiatrist because your mind is so sick!

  • kilabot

    a gay person is just like a swine;

    a swine, you may scrub clean, but it’ll always return and wallow in the mud;
    a gay, no matter how educated and refined, will always crave and lu$t for anus.

    • jgl414567

      A homophobic bigot like you is like a racist and Hitler is a racist. Given the chance you might be a Hitler in the making!

      Monsters like you are the cause of sufferings and oppression in the world!

    • lonelyoutlier

      And people like you are no less. May your god have mercy on your soul.

    • Kenjie Hasaki

      Well, not all gays would want anal sex… they just wanted to be with the arms of another guy. You wouldn’t understand because you would rather have sex with a swine…

  • riccisan

    okay naman tanggap ko na ang mga lgbt, kaso nga lang minsan yung iba talaga hinahaluan ng kalokohan. pag nag uusap ang iingay, masama ang tono ng bibig. dun sumasama image ng mga pinoy lalo na sa abroad. sa lesbians ang titindi naman parang naka preso ang kanilang mga gf, yung tipong sinasaktan na. the real question is, BAKIT SILA DUMADAMI? sige answer na, GO!

    • lonelyoutlier

      Because they find who they are, and they come to terms with who they are, kahit ganyan and tingin sa kanila ng makikitid na utak. Not all gays are like how you make them out to be. How would you know, anyway? Takot ka lang kasi hindi mo maintindihan.

      • riccisan

        yan ang problema sa gay o lesbian na tulad mo di ka marunong magbasa puro ka react. sabi ko “yung iba” hindi lahat. at paano ako matatakot? hindi ko kailangan intindihin ang mga yan dahil mauubos ang oras ko at di naman nila ako pinapakain.
        they find who they are sabi mo, i bet di ka makasagot sa mga dokumeto na nagtatanong ng iyong ‘gender’ male o female? gawa ka ng bagong box and mention “LBGT” pag nagawa mo yan ikaw na matapang.

  • david

    sexual orientation is not a choice? inherent ba yan? namamana ba? di ba me choice ang tao to be or not to be. so choice mo kung gusto mo maging homosexual o straight.

    • Kenjie Hasaki

      Did you choose the color of your skin?

  • Billy Moreno

    Accept that homosexuality is not normal and the public will accept you as a Special Person with special needs. So continually claiming that is normal to be a homosexual will not really get the acceptance of society. Imagine you are a boy and thinks you are a girl. That is a mental problem!

    • Kenjie Hasaki

      You are wrong, not all homosexuals are those boys who thinks they are a girl. In fact there is only a very few percentage of them in the gay world. Most, especially today, are boys who thinks that it would be great to be with boys. They don’t even think they are girls; and they don’t want to be girls. They are just long at peace with they are; and come to terms with it.

      Didn’t you notice, the gays of today are manly (some have very nice abs)… good looking… smart looking… most of them are moneyed…every quality that a girl would fall for… But the thing is, they feel it would be great to be someone who is equally manly, good looking,smart looking and moneyed….

      • Billy Moreno

        hahahaha, that is what they call Macho Gay! Whatever you say homosexuals are not normal, they are Special People with special needs.

      • Kenjie Hasaki

        Everybody has… everyone does…

  • boybakal

    Being gay is not a disease….

    Agree it is not a disease but like a cancer that cannot be cured.

    • Billy Moreno

      i think it can be cured by psychiatric therapy.

      • lonelyoutlier

        No, it can’t.

      • Kenjie Hasaki

        Because there is nothing to cure..

  • adriel0104

    it’s a disease,contagious and scary.It’s scary because gays just grab your balls behind.lol

  • adriel0104

    Obama just signed a 100million dollars to study the abnormal brains of gays/lesbians..

  • Cue_Vas

    It may not be a disease. But it sure is spreading.

  • Guest

    May tanong sa baba bakit daw dumadami ang mga bading. Well here is the answer: According to Richard Dawkins, a noted evolutionary biologist,

  • Kenjie Hasaki

    May tanong sa baba bakit daw dumadami ang mga bading. Well here is the answer: According to Richard Dawkins, a noted evolutionary biologist, it is because of the existence of gay genes. Gay genes are carried mostly by men (and little percentage of women) since they were in the cave. Because of persecution of gays since time immemorial they were/are forced to marry (a woman of course) and pass on the genes to their children.

    If the heteros would really want to get rid of gays, all they have to do is tolerate them. Let them have a same sex marriage. For sure, the chances of passing the gay genes would dramatically decrease. Otherwise, if we force them to become straight and marry an opposite sex, then that gay genes will multiply like the stars in heaven.

  • CyberPinoy

    What ever this article say “Being gay is ALWAYS a social disease” bakit kamo kasi it will destroy the morallity of a person. When a Man started to fantasize a sexual relationship with another man (or vice versa for a lesbian) then that is immoral. Sana wag na i-justify ang pagiging GAY, because kahit saan mo pa tignan ABNORMAL ang pagiging BAKLA. San TV natin parating may bading kaya na-emulate ng bata. Masyadong dumadami ang mga bading kaya panahon na para i-suppress ito at wag i-promote, We dont want to called the nations of GAYS…

  • roy roy

    A two year old has a “normal” urge to steal a toy that he likes from someone else’s arms. He doesn’t grow up to be a thief because he is eventually educated about envy and theft. So I guess we should tell children that whatever they feel is normal and natural. This is plainly and animalistic way of looking at your child. In truth a person is a shotgun marriage of an animal body and a transcendent soul. The body wants pleasure and follows urges, the soul wants meaning and follows ideals.

  • paulmart

    Can somebody confirm that eating chicken always will make straight boys to gays?, I’ve seen boys who are fond of eating fast food chicken now becoming, behaving, and acting like gays. Look around in schools, universities, malls, everywhere… very common now.

  • Dirk Baeten

    Homosexuality IS a disorder. The decision to remove it from the list of disorders in the DSM was not sufficiently supported by science at all. Read for example the born gay hoax by Ryan Sorba or “my genes made me do it”, a summary of all the available scientific resource about homosexuality. The decision to remove homosexuality as a disorder is based on pressure from homosexual groups, the global sexual revolution, tolerance as the new correct way of thinking and a weak interpretation of certain studies (often contradicted by others as well).

  • Ronald Waab

    Yes, being gay is an abnormality. To some cultures being one is accepted, but that does not change it, it is still abnormal. Common sense.

  • regd

    Let me help you people on the ‘we do not have clear answers as to why some people are gay’ part:

    Ans: CHOICE.

    We do this everyday. You will not realize the true implications of your actions until you do something stupid. And then life goes on or not.

  • Hunter421

    It is a phycological disorder. Biblically and morally, it is wrong.

  • Teresita Sy

    Homosexuality is a disease just like stupidity, irresponsibility and selfishness! All are diseases of the idiots below.

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