Friends recall wedding plans of Indian gang-rape victim


An Indian protester shouts slogans as he is stopped by police during a protest against a recent gang-rape of a young woman in a moving bus in New Delhi, India, Thursday, Dec. 27, 2012. Another victim of gang rape in India, a 17-year-old girl, committed suicide after police pressured her to drop the case and marry one of her attackers, police and a relative said on Thursday. AP FILE PHOTO

NEW DELHI—She was due to marry her boyfriend in a matter of weeks, was the apple of her father’s eye and her friends were convinced she would achieve great things after completing her medical studies.

While India has seen an outpouring of grief for the 23-year-old who suffered fatal injuries when she was gang-raped on December 16, those who actually knew her paint a portrait of a young woman who was both in love and much loved.

Although not formally engaged, it was well-known by her friends that she was planning to marry the boyfriend who also suffered serious injuries in the same attack that would ultimately lead to her death.

Meena Rai said that she had been shopping with the unnamed victim for wedding outfits and the contents of a wedding box.

“She was supposed to get married in February to the same guy who was attacked on the bus with her,” said Rai, who lived next door in Mahavir Enclave, a neighborhood in southwestern New Delhi.

“They had made all the wedding preparations and had planned a wedding party in Delhi,” she told AFP.

Another friend who attended the cremation ceremony on Sunday confirmed that the wedding was due to take place in a matter of weeks.

“We know that she was going to get married in February,” Usha Rai (no relation) told AFP. “The whole neighborhood was excited about it.”

The young couple had spent the evening together at a mall watching “The Life of Pi” before they boarded a bus they thought would take them home.

According to reports, the frenzied attack on the pair began when the boyfriend objected to taunts about why an unmarried woman was out so late.

The gang clubbed him with an iron rod before they then turned on her.

The everyday image of a young couple enjoying a night out at the movies has been cited by many Indians to explain why they have been able to relate so much to the plight of someone whose name they will never know.

But others have identified with the backstory of a hardworking student whose family hail from rural India but who was looking to make a name for herself as a young urban professional with the eager backing of her proud parents.

Her parents sold their small piece of land in rural Uttar Pradesh in order to fund their daughter’s education, often limiting their own meals to little more than rotis with namak (bread with salt), according to friends.

In a frontpage tribute, The Hindustan Times said that she was “invariably among the top students in her class and was determined to earn well and repay her father who had sold his ancestral land to fund her studies”.

Employed as a loader at Delhi’s international airport, the father used to say he was “investing in my daughter’s future as she will be the one who takes care of me when I get old”, according to Meena Rai.

Her childhood was mainly spent in a one-bedroom flat near the airport that she shared with her two brothers as well as her parents.

A younger cousin still living back in the parental village in Uttar Pradesh told the Times of India how the young medical student had been an “inspiration”.

“Seeing her do well, I was determined to study as well,” she said.

Other residents of the village recalled a young woman whose passion to succeed in medicine shone through when she paid a visit back home.

“Hers was a story of charming ordinariness, of aspiration and hard work, of pleasure in life’s little joys,” said the Hindustan Times.

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  • Love God

    My heart broke reading this news. 
    It reminds me of how terrible the life of a woman. She have to painfully give birth to a child yet the male dominated society treat her as a sex toy, a commodity, always the victim of all kind of violence and cruelty.

    It is the solemn responsibility of all nation to adopt stricter law to protect our women and children against violence and sexual harassment.

    My love and prayers to all victims of injustice. Blessings for a peaceful new year 2013.

  • afrobabe

    i dont want to reincarnate on this earth again..if i was a  man i would protect  women to  my death. shameful society…dehumanizing and objectifying the life giver  who brought you into this world  after  carrying you for nine months..when  will all  this madness end??

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